Fairhaven UMC

United Methodist Church

  • Summary

    In this week’s service, Rev Dylan Parson draws a poignant parallel between the intensive, careful labor required to cultivate a lawn at his parsonage and the spiritual discipline needed to grow in faith. Reflecting on the human instinct to be risk-averse with our resources—such as time, energy, or church budgets—he examines the Parable of the Sower, noting that the sower’s seemingly wasteful scattering of seed defies our desire for predictable, guaranteed returns. Using the biblical example of Esau, who traded his long-term inheritance for a momentary bowl of soup, Rev Parson warns against the “rocky soil” of a shallow faith that reacts only to immediate comforts and lacks deep, resilient roots.

    Ultimately, Rev Parson encourages the congregation to embrace a more “reckless” approach to ministry, modeled after the sower who throws seed without knowing where it will land. While acknowledging that much of our work in planting the Gospel may appear unsuccessful by human standards, he emphasizes that the Kingdom of God operates through a slow, divine process of cultivation. He concludes with a call to trust in God’s providence, urging believers to pour out the love of Jesus into the world with wild hope, trusting that God will bring an abundant and unexpected harvest far beyond our own calculations.

    In the seven-some years since we moved into Hilltops Parable, one of our greatest battles has been to have a lawn. And I constantly talk about how I could kick myself for never having taken before and after pictures of things that we’ve done in that parsonage backyard because I know in my head that we’ve come a long way from where it was. They have these roses of Sharon that grow along the chain link fence on the side of the backyard that used to arch the whole way over the backyard. The whole back two thirds was in shade, just rocky ground because it was all shaded out. We’ve got those roses of Sharons corralled now. Stormy always picks the most inconvenient time and decides that we’re going to go cut them and we have to bag up seven bags of Rose’s Sharon. So we go do that. But it’s worked.

    And up towards the house, it’s been an even more difficult fight to keep the grass between heavy dog traffic. You know, they shoot out the door right there into the backyard. And there’s this rushing flow whenever it rains of what clearly used to be a spring, just like pretty much a shallow creek bed down the middle of the backyard. And so the front third of the yard has alternated historically between being a mud pit and a dust bowl. Hard to grow grass there. But we’ve managed to get that largely under control too. We have something like a French strain now, a really half-baked French strain. We put a strip of river rock down that breaks the runoff flow. It slows things down, stops the erosion from being as and bad.

    But one of the most effective things we’ve done to get a yard is reseed it. When the landscaping was finished at the front of the church last summer, we snagged a little bit of that leftover grass seed to give it a try in our own yard. And I can’t remember what this blend was. I wish I could. It was like Black Magic or something, maybe. But the bag said that it was a fancy, high-traffic, drought-tolerant blend developed by some university agricultural extension service. So this was good stuff. You know, not that quick cover that only lasts for a season but patches over bigger problems. Not the bottom-shelf Kentucky bluegrass that just dries out here. And it’s been a little over a year now, and this seed has largely worked. We’ve got a pretty heavy green carpet now in our backyard.

    Hilltop’s front lawn looks great even when we go a bell weeks without rain. That grass seed blend, though, again, the first we’ve really gotten to take off, it’s like 80 bucks for a two-pound bag, I’m told. Now, two pounds of grass seed, that’s a lot of individual grass seeds, for sure. But it’s not that many square feet when you get down to it. So before we planted it in our yard, and July is not a great time to do this to begin with, we made sure to lay down bags of mushroom compost in key places. We took a metal rake to dig it in as much as we could to loosen the soil. And once it was down, we put down this new grass fertilizer. And we fenced off the parts of the yard that we most wanted to grow to keep the dogs off it for a couple weeks. And we watered it every day. Remember that last summer, this was crucial because it was hot and it was dry. I had every intention of making this work the first time because all of this was very inconvenient. And most importantly, because I didn’t want to go buy another $80 bag of grass seed to try again. Very high stakes.

    And it seems to me that taking care in this way is what a good sower, a good farmer is supposed to do. And now you’ll note that as far as crops go, grass is a pretty useless crop. It doesn’t provide anything for us except for a nice carpet to walk on, to sit on, to look at. You like those nice freshly mowed lines. Maybe that’s just the man thing. I don’t know. But if I had planted wheat or corn that I was relying on as my and my primary source of food, I’d have been even more careful before and after I sowed the seeds to make sure I got enough of a crop for my family to survive. So Jesus listeners, when they’re hearing this parable of these seeds, these aren’t casual gardeners growing a couple zucchini plants, maybe some cherry tomatoes. They did not have grass lawns. That wasn’t invented yet. These are subsistence farmers. They eat what they grow or they die.

    And so when Jesus is describing in this parable this sower, he’s describing a very bad farmer. If an actual farmer were to do their job like the one in this parable, they would likely come out of the harvest season bankrupt, and if it were back in Jesus’ day, they’d potentially come out of the winter dead. And those who would have originally heard Jesus’ parable, they understood this perfectly well. And it probably surprised them a lot that this doesn’t really seem to be a concern of Jesus’ in the story. This farmer being wasteful, being bad at his job, that doesn’t really seem to be the point of the story at all. They would have known that this farmer is throwing away valuable seed at random to see what takes, even in places that make no sense. You know, you cultivate a field. You don’t spread your corn on the driveway, right?

    And these farmers would have been very puzzled because they, like us, prefer to live their lives in a risk-averse way. We’re not going to dump valuable resources onto rocky ground or into the thorns. Whenever we look at our resources, whether it’s an $80 bag of grass seed, whether it’s our church budget, whether it’s the very limited energy each of us has, we try to be very careful with how we invest them. We want guaranteed returns, visible victories along the way, predictable growth. It doesn’t have to be enormous, but it should be predictable and reliable.

    But at the same time, we have dueling impulses within us. Because even as we want that stuff, we’re also really notoriously bad at calculating long-term growth and risk. You know, especially when we get desperate or tired or anxious, we stop thinking well about the $future. And whenever we’re under pressure, we stop being conservative and risk-averse and start looking for instant wins, instant gratification. And we see that in our Old Testament reading today with Esau. Esau comes in from this hunting expedition, probably been out a day or so. He’s hungry. His legs are wobbling. He’s about to drop over unless he gets something to eat. He’s desperately hungry.

    And I don’t know about you, maybe this is an insulin problem I need to get looked at, but I experience this pretty frequently. A few months ago, I was in Costco having skipped lunch, walking around Costco with Stormy and I got this overwhelming feeling that if I did not get to the food court right now and get a smoothie, I was going to black out and crack my skull on the rotisserie chicken rack. And it is very scary whenever you feel hunger overtake you like that. You want to deal with it immediately. It’s this ultimate, immediate, acute, short-term crisis, and it’s one that Esau is having. Esau says to himself, I need to eat, and I need to eat right now. And his brother Jacob, who we just heard his backstory, he’s been a schemer, he’s been an opportunist from before he was born. Jacob sees his moment and he offers his brother Esau a single bowl of red lentil stew. And he’ll give that to Esau on credit. You don’t got to worry about paying me right now for that. He will just owe Jacob his entire inheritance when his father dies. Worry about it later.

    And Esau is completely caught up in the physical discomfort that he’s in. Again, he’s going to drop over. And he says, look, I’m going to die right now if I don’t eat. So what good is this inheritance to me? You got it. And he sells his entire future, not just his, but his kids, his legacy. He sells his place in God’s covenant. You know, he was the firstborn. He should have been the father of God’s people. He sells all of that for a bowl of soup. And it’s easy for us to look at Esau and wonder, how could you be so stupid? Although I think we need to give him some grace and maybe he thinks his brother was kidding because that’s a crazy thing to do.

    But Esau here is the embodiment of what Jesus calls this rocky soil. And Jesus explains in his parable that some seeds that are scattered fall on rocky ground. There’s only a thin layer of topsoil. And these seeds actually start off growing incredibly fast, faster than any others. The soil is loose. It’s warm. It gets the morning sunlight, easy for water to get into. And at first glance, it looks like it’s a massive success just in the short term here. Like this harvest is going to be huge. Look at this crop shoot up in the rocks. But the moment there’s a hot summer’s day and a week without rain, these seedlings wither and die because they have an no deep roots to sustain them. There’s no anchor. There’s no drawing of nutrition from deep ground.

    And this is Esau. Esau is a simple guy. We see that throughout the narrative here in Genesis. He’s a simple guy. He’s not a schemer. He’s not a thinker. He likes going hunting. Now, this is not a problem, but for him, again, it means that he lacks the deep roots of commitment and faith that would secure his footing in challenging moments. And instead, he is ruled by the immediate climate of whatever is around him. Whatever’s happening, he responds to it without being careful. And so the moment he experiences that first hot summer day with the sun beating down like those seedlings, he gets some hunger, he feels physical discomfort, he’s worried about what’s about to happen, his roots reveal just how shallow they are. And he chooses this quick fix, this soup that’s going to nourish him in the moment over this long-term promise of stability.

    And if we’re honest with ourselves, the rocky soil is a warning to each of us. The easiest soil of any of these, I think, for us in the church to be is to be that rocky soil, to be the seedling who starts out devoted to Jesus, devoted to the $church for a time. We love it here. We’re very excited. We’ve seen new things where what is this place like? What’s Jesus like? All this. We see just great things happening within and around us. But as time goes on in the church and in our faith, we lose interest a little bit. We lose commitment a little bit. The thrill of newness wears off and we hit a moment of disillusionment or conflict and then it’s over.

    But this is a lifelong thing. We can’t be that way. And what we also see in this parable is that the painful reality is that proclaiming the good news, doing the work of the church of a Christian in the world, like planting seeds, is not usually going to work by our metrics. We will not have every seed sprout. In this parable, keep in mind that this sower has a failure three quarters of the time. We will not even have most of our seeds sprout. Most places that we plant will be totally unsuccessful in getting the results that we’re hoping for. And maybe our biggest disappointments are going to be the moments when we’re expecting some return on our efforts, and it appears to show up, these little seedlings, but then it’s in the rocks and it wilts in the sun.

    Jesus shows us in this parable that we can’t force a solution. We can’t force growth. We can’t force seeds to take in places that they’re just not gonna. Because the kingdom of God just doesn’t work like that. Our role is to live our lives both as the soil, and that’s how parables work, right? You’re multiple things, multiple levels in the parable. But our role is to live our lives planting the seeds of the gospel, being fertile soil, spreading the love of Jesus around us, and doing our $our best to set up the body of Christ, the church for a successful harvest. And this requires us not to get disproportionately caught up in the short term, not to get nearsighted in our actions. We’re not supposed to get stingy with the seeds, but we’re also not supposed to think short term. Because if we’re doing what we’re supposed to do, and that’s not reflecting in our budget, in the number of people in the pews, in our own spiritual growth in this moment, that’s not inherently a marker of failure. If indeed we are committed to keep doing what we’re supposed to do, an enormous harvest, we see this at the end of the parable, an enormous harvest might be on the horizon in those places that are taking very slowly. Whether we personally get to see it or not.

    This is one of the hardest things, whether we personally get to see it or not. And on the flip side of that, these other types of soil, if we make short-sighted decisions to achieve quick results by force, that’s like planting on thin, rocky soil and getting excited when the seedlings shoot up. They’re only going to last a short time. Churches, disciples of Christ, have to be cultivated over time. This is the only way that plants can grow to maturity that are hardened, that are resilient against the heat. Those of you who do garden and do it from seed, more labor intensive than how I usually do, know that whenever you get some tomato plants, you’ve got $got to put them outside in the early spring to harden off the weak ones, which really means kind of kill the weak ones and strengthen the ones that are going to last. So there’s a process over time that involves a lot of failure.

    And the coming of the kingdom of God is like this long, slow process that requires hope and expectation whenever the evidence might not be visible yet. The seeds that we plant might be starting by digging down roots long before a shoot comes up. Building the church, awaiting the fullness of the kingdom. These things are a lot like farming. It doesn’t take a lot of reading in the Gospels to realize that Jesus talks like that a lot. Because like farming, it’s God who decides what is going to happen, what’s going to grow. God brings the harvest. You and I don’t grow seeds. We just plant seeds and try to make the best environment for them.

    And again, because the harvest belongs to God, because it’s brought by God, we don’t have to be stingy or calculated or careful with the seeds that we throw around. Think about how different that is, again, from our instincts. As I can testify about my backyard, it is hard enough to get seeds to grow on decent, prepared, fertilized, watered soil, and good seed is expensive. We hoard what’s precious to us, what’s valuable, because we’re afraid to waste it. We’re afraid that if we get rid of it, we’ll lose it, that we’ll end up behind.

    But I think this is an important part of the parable, the part that Jesus doesn’t say when he doesn’t condemn this bad farmer. He doesn’t say he’s a bad farmer. We don’t call this the parable of the bad sower. It’s expected that the farmer should be reckless with his seeds. It’s not a problem. It’s how he’s supposed to be. Despite what appears to be this tremendous waste, the harvest the farmer receives in the parable is a huge one. So are you really wasting seeds if what you get is a 100 to 1 harvest? Whatever he might have hoped for, he gets way more beyond his wildest dreams. I don’t know much about how you grow grain, but every commentary I read about this says that a 100 to 1, a 60 to 1, a 30 to 1 return is absurd. So what he harvests is not a normal yield. It’s not even a good year. It’s a crazy good harvest. This farmer would have more grain than he ever knew what to do with.

    And suddenly scattering those seeds all over the place isn’t going to feel so wasteful. He sowed with this wild hope and he reaped a harvest that only God could produce for him. This is what the kingdom of God is like. This is how we are called to live. Foolishly, recklessly pouring out the love of Jesus into the world and trusting that God’s going to do something with it. That God will grow something with what we scatter. We do our part and God brings the harvest. In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit.

  • Announcements 7-12-2026

    Free Fairhaven T-Shirts

    • Event: Distribution of freshly laundered, brand new Fairhaven T-shirts.
    • Location: Fairhaven UMC (Downstairs)
    • Details: Available on a first-come, first-served basis. Available sizes are Large, XL, and 2XL only.

    Partnership Council Meeting

    • Event: Gathering of leaders from all three churches to share ministry updates.
    • Location: Spencer UMC
    • Time: Tomorrow night – 7/13 at 6:00 PM
    • Details: Everyone is welcome to attend.

    Spencer Summer Picnic

    • Event: Monthly summer picnic featuring hot dogs and live music.
    • Location: Spencer UMC (Parking Lot)
    • Time: This Thursday- 7/16 5:30 PM – 7:00 PM
    • Details: Open to all; feel free to bring a friend or neighbor. Side dishes are welcome if desired.

    Baby Celebration

    • Event: A celebration for Stormie and Dylan.
    • Location: Fairhaven UMC
    • Time: August 2nd at 2:00 PM
    • Details: This is a partnership celebration. Please RSVP to the organizer to ensure enough food is prepared.

    Hilltop Back-to-School Dollar Sale

    • Event: Mission sale featuring new and lightly used clothing, shoes, and household items.
    • Location: Hilltop UMC
    • Time: Saturday, August 8th at 9:00 AM
    • Details: All items are priced at $1 or $2. Volunteers are needed for the event.
    • Contact: Lou Ann

  • Summary

    In this week’s service, Rev. Steve Mcllaine explores the difficulty of trying to please everyone and the tendency of the human heart to resist God’s voice. Reflecting on the experiences of Jesus and John the Baptist, Pastor Mcllaine notes that the core issue was often a heart that had already decided not to listen. He warns that humans can easily fall into the trap of comfort, becoming so settled in their routines that they stop expecting God to surprise them.

    The sermon centers on Jesus’ powerful invitation: “Come to me, all you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.” Using the metaphor of a yoke, Rev. Mcllaine explains how Jesus walks alongside us like a stronger ox, sharing our weight and helping us bear our anxieties, guilt, and fears. He concludes by encouraging the congregation to respond to this invitation through honesty, daily trust in God, and by becoming the hands of Christ by helping to carry one another’s burdens.

    There are moments in life when it seems impossible to please everyone. Right? Yeah. One person says you’re too quiet. Another says you talk too much, right? Or someone thinks you’re too traditional. Another says that you’re too progressive. Or one person says that you care too much. Then another says, well, people care not. It’s impossible to please everyone, is it not? Jesus knew exactly what that was like. In today’s gospel lesson, Jesus describes people of this generation as children. Children sitting in the marketplace, complaining that no one wants to play in their games that they want to play. They said that we play the flutes. but no one danced. We sang a funeral song that you did not mourn. In other words, nothing could satisfy them. John the Baptist came fasting and living simple and they said he has demons. What is it? Jesus came eating with people and attending celebrations and sharing meals with sinners and then they said that he was a blundin and a drunkard. The problem was John, was it? No. The problem wasn’t with Jesus either, was it? No. The problem was the heart that had already decided not to listen.

    We still see that today, don’t we? A heart just doesn’t want to listen. Sometimes people reject God because the evidence isn’t there. I just haven’t seen enough miracles or I just, I don’t know, I need God to do something. Or maybe they’re even mad at God because He just didn’t answer that particular prayer that they want to answer. So God often speaks through Scripture, does he not? A special word that encourages you pops out of you. You say, wow, that’s exactly what I needed to hear in that moment. God speaks through faithful friends, gives you words of encouragement. God speaks through worship services. There’s a particular word that the pastor says that just, that’s exactly what I needed to hear. God even speaks through the light of life. Life’s joys and sorrows. moments when we just need that, hear those words, and it encourages us. Yet, if our hearts are closed, we may miss His voice, right? We may not be opening to hear what He has to say for us. He welcomes those. He was speaking to people who refused to believe no matter what God said, No matter what God did, these people just were not willing to listen. How easy is it for us to fall into that same trap? We become comfortable. You call it comfortable, don’t you? Yeah. We get comfortable in our routines, our daily tasks, and we stop expecting God to just surprise us. So we don’t. We don’t listen.

    Jesus then shifts his focus and offers, you know, a beautiful prayer, right? He says, I thank you, Father, because you have hidden these things from me, from the wise and intelligent, and have revealed them to the innitents. Beings, innitents, young. Jesus isn’t criticizing intellectuals or intelligence or education. He’s not doing that. That’s not what he means. He’s talking about humility. Millie. There’s a difference between knowing many things and trusting God. One of the things that I found out in my journey with God is the more I know about God, the less I actually know. Yeah, there’s a truth, isn’t it? He opens your mind to so much more and say, “Oh, I have no idea. Simple me.” And it’s a wholly, fully experienced one. Children have this amazing ability to trust. They’re taught, walks around with you, all he needs to do is reach up and grab your hand, and there’s not a question or doubt in his mind that you will always be there for him. is trust. That’s the kind of trust that Jesus is celebrating. That trust that God is going to be there in that moment when you need it. That same trust. Faith begins when we admit that we don’t have all the answers. The kingdom of God is entered through pride, not through pride, but through humility. The more that we rely upon ourselves alone, then heavier than light becomes. Have you ever felt that way? I know that I get stuck in that routine. Even as a child, I can remember my dad teaching me how to tie my shoes or put my shoes on. And I think, no, no, I’ll do it. I’ll do it. It’s that sense of independence within us. And sometimes it can get in the way of our relationship with God. Pride can get in the way of humility.

    Perhaps the most beloved words of today’s gospel are these. Come to me. All you who are weary will carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest, he says. Who among us doesn’t need those words? After a 60 hour week, a little sleep, will I have the night to come and get some rest, some time and stuff? We all know that feeling. Some of us carry some physical burdens. Others carry grief. Many carry anxieties about the future. What does the future hold? What does a world look like? Others carry loneliness. Sometimes we smile on Sunday morning while carrying burdens that no one else can see. But Jesus, just as he sees those, he knows. He knows every tune of pride. He knows every sleepless night that we’ve ever had. He knows every silent prayer that we’ve ever prayed. And his invitation is wonderfully simple. come to me come to me he says to me notice he doesn’t say fix yourself first he doesn’t say get it all together and then come over and talk to me he doesn’t say become perfect or you know version 2.0 of yourself he doesn’t say any of that he simply says come come to me

    a little story about a farmer about rest. The whole story. He was so old horse was pulling his heavy wagon. Every day his horse pulled his wagon. Faithfully he kept pulling it. One day, he just stood. The horse became so exhausted and tired that he stopped. And he would not pull that wagon anymore. You know what that farmer could have yelled at that horse? Right? Paul, let me see that. or maybe even cracked the wind and put that horse to the horse and started moving again. But he didn’t do that. You know what he did? He actually got off and unloaded some of that weight off of that wagon until that horse noticed that the weight was enough that he could have it won again. That was nice. So once that burden became lighter, that force began to pull him. Many people live as though they must pull every burden alone. We’ve just got to do everything ourselves and figure it all out. We can’t let other people be burdened by our burdens, right? We carry worries God never intended us to carry. We carry resentments. Maybe it’s choices that somebody made. Maybe something that we did in our lives before. We carry fears. Fears about life. Fears about our children. Fears about what? I have enough to pay the electric bill next month. You know, those are real fears. We carry guilt. Guilt of all choices we’ve made in the past or not made. Jesus doesn’t promise life without or no responsibility. He promises that we do not carry life’s burdens alone. Never alone. See, Jesus says, Take my yoke upon you, for my yoke is easy and my burden is life. That sounds strange, doesn’t it? A yoke? Take your yoke upon you? Take my yoke upon you? I mean, a yoke is something that’s placed on an organ. Do we look like work animals? No. But a yoke? I mean, think about that for a minute. A yoke can bring freedom. You see, in Jesus’ day, a yoke was used between two animals. The older animal, the more experienced animal, would lead the younger, inexperienced animal. And then he would then, that older animal, that little work experienced animal, would help that animal by pulling most of the weight. The other would then walk alongside and learn how to walk that, particularly the walk away. So, Jesus, for us, becomes that stronger ox. He walks alongside us carrying those same things that we’ll carry with us.

    He often tells us, you don’t have to carry that stuff. Father God, leave it behind you. I got better things to store for you. See, in Jesus, we are never pulling along. When life becomes overwhelming, Christ bears the greater weight with us. That’s why His burden was led. Not because life is easy, you know, we get that image of life to the fullest, you know, when they’re under a part of life. But Jesus said it’s not going to be easy. And he knew that. And that is why he walks alongside us, carrying, posting, burdens. Notice that Jesus doesn’t promise rest for us, right? He promises rest for our souls, which was important. See, there’s a difference. We go on vacation. Then vacation is good for rest of the body. In other words, sitting on the beach, you know, having a couple of nice drinks and just relaxing and not wearing our bodies out. So we’re relaxing and we’re resting, right? And then sleep. Sleep often gives our minds a break, a rest. We often go into a dream state where it’s just a nice thing that we just dream about usually until time we get back. But nice dreams and it helps us to relax. You know, we’re fresh for the next day. entertainment can distract us for a little while. But only Christ can give us rest for the soul. Right? That deep peace comes from knowing that we belong to God. Knowing that our age, I will look on is that ability to find rest in your soul. And that comes from trusting that God’s grace is greater than our failures. It comes from believing that Christ walks with us every step of life’s journey.

    So how do we respond to Jesus’ invitation? It comes to me. First, we come honestly. We’re going to be reminded of that when we take communion today. We confess our sins before God and one another. We don’t hide our struggles. I’m having a hard time. I tell them this morning, I’m nervous. I’m scared. I don’t know why I should be, because you are a great people. We prayer simply bring our real souls before God. Saying that, Lord, I don’t have it all figured out. I don’t know what I’m going to do tomorrow. Maybe you lost a job. Maybe your family’s going through a hard time right now. Maybe the kids are struggling with their relationships. Don’t know. When we present those prayers to God, we’re real with them. We’re saying, I don’t know what to do anymore. I need you. Second, we trust Him daily. He promised that He would never leave us and He would never forsake us. That means He is with us in all ways. Right here. So it’s not that far from the head to the heart to say, Jesus, I need you right now. Every morning, we place our worries in Christ’s hands. I don’t know what to do today, Lord, but I’m going to put them in your hands, and I’m going to trust that you’re going to provide for me. Every evening when we come home from work, we can thank God for providing for us, for allowing us to be able to work, and for getting us home safely, and allowing us to spend time with family. and friends. And third, we can help carry one another’s permanence. Not them, but to be alone. God didn’t decide us that way. One of the greatest ways that Christ gives us rest is through his people. Perhaps it’s a phone call to one of the people that are able to come around. You know, call mom or call the neighbor guy and say, hey, how are you doing? A visit. A meal. a listening ear was for us too. A prayer. A prayer for somebody who’s going through a moment strong in their life. Sometimes we can become the hands of Jesus. We can become the hands of Christ throughout the world. Hoping to lighten somebody else’s burdens or somebody else’s things that they’re carrying. So here’s my conclusion for you today. The world often tells us that we must prove ourselves, right? You’ve got to be everything that you can be. You’ve got to prove yourself, right? Work harder. Do more. Be more successful. Never show weakness, okay? Jesus offers something entirely different. He says, come to me. Come to me. Not because you’re strong. Because you are weary. Not because you have everything together, but because we need him. His arms remain open. His grace is sufficient. His love never fails. The burden is too heavy. The heart is too broken. The life is beyond his reach. Today, may we lay down our burdens where we never meant that we were never meant to carry. May we walk beside the one who carries us. And may we discover again the promise that has comforted believers for generations. Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens. I will give you rest. Amen. Amen. Thank you.

  • Announcements 7-5-2026

    Partnership Business

    South Hills Partnership Meeting:

    • Event: Monthly partnership meeting
    • Location: Spencer UMC
    • Time: Monday, July 13, 2026, 6:00 PM
    • Details: Meeting time changed from 7:00 PM to 6:00 PM

    Upcoming Church Events

    Baby Celebration:

    • Event: Co-ed baby shower for Pastor Dylan and Stormie
    • Location: Fairhaven UMC
    • Time: Sunday, August 2, 2026, 2:00 PM
    • Details: Men and women are invited; RSVP required by July 20, 2026 to confirm attendance

    Ongoing Ministries

    Summer Zoom Bible Study:

    • Event: Weekly Wednesday night Bible study
    • Location: online via Zoom
    • Time: Wednesdays, 7:00 PM
    • Details: Continues throughout the summer; speak with the Smoyers to join
    • Contact: The Smoyers

    United Women in Faith:

    • Event: Regular monthly meeting
    • Location: Fairhaven UMC
    • Time: Second Mondays of the month, 12:00 PM
    • Details: On hiatus for the summer; resumes in September

    150th Anniversary Celebration:

    • Event: Milestone celebration for Fairhaven UMC
    • Location: Fairhaven UMC
    • Time: Sunday, May 23, 2027
    • Details: Marks 150 years; seeking ideas and volunteers to help plan event
    • Contact: Fairhaven UMC leadership

    Welcome Announcement:

    • Event: Introduction of new leadership and family
    • Location: Fairhaven UMC
    • Time: Before Sunday service (July 5, 2026)
    • Details: Welcoming Pastor Steve to Fairhaven.

  • Summary

    In this week’s service, Rev. Dylan Parson explores one of the most unsettling narratives in Scripture: Abraham’s near-sacrifice of his son, Isaac, on Mount Moriah. Drawing parallels between Jesus’ teachings on the weight of intention and modern stories of broken trust, the Pastor reflects on how the threat of violence can be just as damaging as the act itself. He highlights that while the knife was ultimately stayed by an angel, the psychological impact on Isaac remains a profound wound, illustrating how much can be lost even when a tragedy is averted.

    Rev. Parson argues that God’s intervention was not a test of Abraham’s willingness to commit violence, but rather a confrontation with his history of cowardice and neglect regarding Hagar and Ishmael. The sermon concludes with a powerful call to move away from “spectacular” or destructive displays of faithfulness that justify the suffering of others. Instead, the Pastor challenges the congregation to embrace the much more difficult and ordinary work of being good neighbors and parents—to drop the “knife” of self-justification and begin the hard work of loving and healing what we have broken.

    They arrived, the book of Emesis tells us, at the place God described to him. Abraham built an altar there and arranged the wood on top of it, and he tied up his son Isaac and laid him on the altar on top of the wood. Then Abraham stretched out his hand and took the knife to offer him to kill his son as a sacrifice. As I read one of the most disturbing stories in scripture this time, I found myself wondering, does it really matter what the rest of the chapter says before or after this? Because Abraham, the singular patriarch of Israel, the father of the nation of which we’ve become a part, our own father Abraham that we sing about on Sunday school. He’s murdered his son.

    Has he? You know, I think here of Jesus’ assertion in Matthew 5 of how sin works. Every man who looks at a woman lustfully, Jesus says, has already committed adultery in his heart. The desire to do it, Jesus tells us, which is a much lower threshold than the intention to do it is in some deep way as bad as the thing itself in the eyes of God, and especially in the eye of the one who would be the victim. And I think we know this instinctively. Suppose that you get home one day and you sit in front of your spouse to offer a confession and you say, you know, I have found my coworker incredibly attractive for a very long time. and finally I made plans to meet her. I booked the hotel room. I drove there. I took the room key. I opened the door. I went in. We shared a bottle of wine, but then I decided to leave the last minute. How do you think that would be received? Do you think that you’d get thanks and credit for being so loyal because you dropped the knife at the last minute?

    There’s a film that came out earlier this year called The Drama. We watched this a couple weeks ago, that deals with this question, right? There’s a couple named Emma and Charlie in the movie, played by Zendally and Robert Pattinson, the ultimate millennial actors here. And they’re perfectly suited for each other. It’s this whirlwind romance. They fall madly in love after they have this cute meeting in a cafe. They begin to plan their fairytale wedding. And while they’re having dinner, while they’re sampling food options for the reception alongside their best man and their maid of honor, the four of them decide to play a game that if they’re going to really know and trust each other, they’re going to confess to one another the very worst thing that they’ve ever done in their lives.

    And so Emma, the bride, goes last, and she follows after these really dark confessions. Her maid of honor confesses to having mercilessly bullied this mentally disabled boy, and she admits to something half a lifetime ago. And Emma says at this dinner table, whenever they’re all confessing these bad things, when she was 15, this lonely, this desperately isolated teenager, she had planned a school shooting. And everyone is just shocked for a minute as she’s joking. And she says, I never went through with it, obviously. My life changed completely in the aftermath. But she does say, I had every every intention of carrying it out until the moment that I didn’t do it. and the rest of the movie deals with the fallout of that act that never happened and so immediately her maid of honor her best friend turns against her their friendship turns to hatred and again even though nothing actually happened and the engagement continues it’s just in complete uh wreckage at this point um charlie the groom tries to reconcile this woman that he knows, who’s perfect, who’s kind, who’s gentle, with this confession of her past intent, and he finds it impossible to love her the way that he did previously. And the climax of this whole movie is Charlie feeling that he has license to actually cause harm to his fiance, which he rationalizes basically as retaliation for this evil act that she never committed and certainly didn’t commit against him.

    So imagine turning to Genesis, being Isaac, Abraham’s son, who walked down Mount Moriah with rope burn on his wrist. He felt the swoosh of his father’s sleeve on the back of his neck as he raised the knife over his head. If you’re Isaac, does it matter, really, that your father kill you. He’s shown you that he can. He’s shown you that he’s capable and willing to do it. And indeed, I think what’s important here further is that for Isaac and Abraham, it’s even worse than that, actually, because Abraham has already sacrificed a son. We don’t think about it that way, but he did.

    If we look towards the beginning of this chapter, the way God speaks to Abraham, It’s almost like God’s twisting the knife, so to speak, making Abraham remember what he did. God says to Abraham, take your son, your only son, whom you love, Isaac, and go to the land of Moriah. But those of us who are familiar with Genesis, who know the story of Abraham, who even read the chapter just before, know, as Abraham does, that Isaac is not Abraham’s only son. His firstborn son is Ishmael, born to him by his slave girl, Hagar. And so in last Sunday’s Old Testament reading, we’ve been preaching on the Gospels, but you’ve been hearing it anyway. In last Sunday’s Genesis reading, we saw Abraham’s wife, Sarah, erupt in rage. Because Sarah sees Ishmael, who’s still a baby, he’s a toddler, just weaned. She sees this baby Ishmael laughing joyfully, playing. And Sarah explodes with jealousy about this kid. She demands that Abraham throw Hagar and Ishmael out of their household. She’s sick of the competition. She doesn’t want to be near Hagar. She hates this kid who’s not her son.

    And so Abraham does what she asks. He sends them into the wilderness with nothing but a flask of an water and a bit of bread. And they’re cast into this wilderness outside Beersheba. It reminds me of the scapegoat that we see elsewhere in Genesis. This goat that’s driven out into the wilderness to carry the people’s sins with it. Abraham thinks that the way that he’s not served and listened to God, the broken relationship with his wife, he sends these two out in the wilderness that should go away. And Abraham knows, as we do, that this is a certain death sentence for Hagar and for his firstborn, but he’s willing to do it. He’s willing to do it to keep peace with his wife, who, by the way, was the on who first proposed that Abraham use Hagar to produce an heir. It was her idea. He can tell himself that he’s just sending them away into the desert, but there’s nowhere for them to go.

    So, Abraham is not new to the child sacrifice game. What’s new for him is having to get his own hands dirty in the process. He has to put his own hands on the knife rather than just relying on the sun, on the jackals, the dry sand to handle it for him. And so I wonder, I don’t see how it’s possible that he’s not, if Abraham is thinking about Ishmael as he treks for three days to this faraway land of Moriah, where God says the sacrifice of your son, your only son, Isaac, whom you love, will take place. So Isaac is carrying his own wood pile. And Abraham is probably carrying the weight of baby Ishmael, right? This dead son that God knows he hasn’t forgotten about on his shoulders. And Ishmael is getting heavier and heavier this memory, as if he’s growing into the man that Abraham’s never going to meet.

    and finally Abraham and Isaac arrive at the peak of Mount Moriah and Isaac finally speaks out loud what you know he’s been thinking for the last three days here’s the fire and here’s the wood but where is the lamb and Abraham stumbles in his response and he says the lamb for the entirely burned offering he repeats Isaac here I wonder if he’s what he’s going to say. The lamb, what do I say? He says, God will see to it, my son. Or in other translations, he says, God will provide my son. But in Hebrew, there are no commas. There are no semicolons. And so, translators have guessed that one should be there. God will provide my son. But in writing, as in speech, Abraham could have just as easily said, God will provide my son.

    Soon, Abraham ties up Isaac. He places him on the woodpile, and he raises the cleaver. That’s the Hebrew word. It’s a meat cleaver. He raises it in his and to take it down over his neck. And the moment that he does that, this angel shouts, Abraham, Abraham. And Abraham’s response as he pauses is, again, completely neutral. This is the way he’s answered God the whole way through this chapter. He says, here I am. And the messenger from God orders him to stop and points instead to this ram that has shown up out of nowhere. This ram who’s caught in the brush by his horns. And this ram instead, this is going to be the sacrifice to God. Isaac is to be set free.

    And God grabs Abraham’s wrist, so to speak, and he stops the knife that he held over his innocent son’s head and explicitly says, do not do anything to him. And of course, this is not the enough time that God has stopped Abraham’s knife. You know, Abraham and Sarah, years before, were prepared to send Hagar and Ishmael to his death, but God stepped in there too. God, years before, intervened to save Ishmael. Ishmael’s not dead. God saved Ishmael, preventing the slow-motion murder that Abraham was ready to commit. He promises instead, he tells Abraham, you know, I’m going to make Ishmael into a great nation too. Even as he’s going to be orphaned by his father, I’m going to be with him too. And so as Hagar and her son withered from thirst in the desert out by themselves, God called out to Hagar. God gave them water. He provided for them as Ishmael grew up and indeed made him the father of another people. Ishmael grows to adulthood. He gets a wife from Egypt. He becomes this great archer. Abraham never knows that.

    But this time, this time on Mount Moriah, God has forced Abraham to face the consequences of his cowardice. You don’t get to have the desert do your dirty work and keep your hands clean for your whole life, Abraham. And there is this violent lesson that he receives. That the Lord does not work like you. The Lord does not work like me. Accepting and enabling the suffering of other people to alleviate our discomfort and pain. That’s what Abraham wanted. He was willing to sacrifice other people to keep peace for him. The Lord tells us, tells Abraham here, that the Lord’s never going to demand child sacrifices. And Abraham has repeatedly been ready to offer them, but God doesn’t want them. You know, they’ve made him sad every time, but he’s still been willing to do it.

    And there is one more thing here that Abraham acknowledges whenever he names Moriah after sacrificing his son. He names it Yahweh Yerah, which means that God sees or God will provide. because God sees, because God does provide. God doesn’t brush things under the rug or out into the desert. God sees. God addresses it head on. And so in this incredibly traumatic story, this is really one of the worst stories in Scripture, God reveals to Abraham that God is far more gracious, far more kind, far more tender towards Abraham’s own children than he is. although again notably there is $\text{no}$ evidence in Genesis at all that Abraham ever finds out conclusively what happens to Ishmael God says he’s going to take care of him and Abraham apparently leaves it at that so Abraham has to live with that guilt forever unless he’s just kind of pushed it down and if he feels that guilt maybe he deserves it this story brings out something different for me every time I preach it, every time it comes up. But my sense in reading this story today is that God’s point is not to test Abraham’s willingness to comply with his most extreme commands.

    I think the point might be to force Abraham to see what God has seen. The helplessness of his child. The injustice that he’s perpetrated on his sons. Not to mention Hagar. To make him look at it. Just as God sees, he makes Abraham see. And he makes very clear for everyone who is to follow, who is to read this story, that the God of Israel doesn’t demand this kind of service and sacrifice. All the other gods of that time, of that region, accepted child sacrifice gladly, not this one. And Abraham has completely misunderstood what it means to serve God. And as I read this, I am certain that God would have just preferred that Abraham be a good dad rather than sacrifice either one.

    But crucially, God has twice now swooped in to make right where Abraham has committed this unforgivable neglect. God has fixed it. And yet, you can’t fix it. God hasn’t made it happily ever after. Abraham and Isaac never speak again. From this moment, not just this chapter, from this moment, Isaac disappears from Abraham’s life the very moment that ram shows up. You can picture him getting untied and just tearing off. And as we push further, if we read a couple more verses into this chapter, into verse 19, it’s only Abraham and his servants who return to Beersheba. No mention of Isaac. Isaac is gone. So while Abraham didn’t actually kill him, Isaac’s now as good as dead to his family. He’s withdrawn from his him father for the rest of his life. And Abraham now has murdered his relationship with two sons without laying a hand on either one.

    God has saved their lives. He’s laid out a life before these two sons, but he has not cleaned up Abraham’s mess. It turns out that the most radical thing that God could have possibly asked of Abraham, that Abraham could not do wasn’t to raise a knife on his son to sacrifice him. It was much harder than that, but also much more ordinary than that. God just wanted him to be a good man. God wanted him to be a good father, which is surely what his sons wanted as well. Imagine Genesis 21 and 22 go a completely different way, where Abraham decides that he’s going to protect Hagar from the unfair treatment that his wife is giving her. Imagine if he decides to love Ishmael as his own rather than be exiled for daring to feel joy. Imagine if he stands up to Sarah’s rage, if he shields Isaac. Abraham thinks here that God wants a servant who is willing to just kind of outsource all of his morality and unquestionably do what he’s told. but maybe God just wanted a parent.

    And I’m reminded, maybe this is the anticipation of fatherhood talking here, of the observation that many people have made that a lot of men will express a willingness to kill or to die for their spouses, for their children, when what so many of our families actually need is some help in getting the laundry done or putting the baby down, or just a hug after a hard day. So how often do we misunderstand what it means, what is necessary to serve God and be God’s faithful people? How often do we think that faithfulness requires either these big, dramatic, sweeping gestures or to tolerate the suffering of other people, to harden our hearts, to participate in systems and practices that crush the innocent, all in the name of some high, great duty or wisdom.

    I think that God on Mount Moriah says that that’s not it. God is not served by victimizing the vulnerable. Indeed, both times he stepped in to make sure it didn’t happen. And so if our theology, if our understanding of God requires us to harm someone else or allow the suffering of our neighbors to prove our loyalty towards God, maybe we don’t know God very well. So whenever we leave worship today, the altar, right, we walk down a mountain, we return to our families, our neighborhoods, our communities, And God will show us the places, the times in our lives that we’ve been willing to make other people, those we know, those we don’t know, into sacrifices. You know, we can keep hunting for these opportunities to outsource the right thing to do, to build great altars, to look for spectacular ways to prove how right and faithful we are. Or we can just listen to the same voice that Abraham heard on Moriah to stop the blade. Don’t touch the young man. Don’t do anything to him. Here’s a different way. The ram is in the thicket. God shows us what fatherhood looks like.

    And so what’s left for us is to walk down the mountain, to drop the knife we thought we were going to need, and begin hard and ordinary work of loving, of healing the things that we have broken. In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen.